Gratitude for the Learning

Can you be grateful for the pain?

Can you see, even a little bit, how having this experience is cracking you open?


I know, looking back it’s a lot easier to see it.  And sometimes that’s all you can do.

I see that breaking up with my husband, wow, now exactly 30 years ago, was one of the most profound shifts, hardest lessons and deepest learnings I have had in my life.

At the time, I was running for my life, and the life of my child. I realized I might physically died if I stayed, and I was terrified to leave. Having an almost 2-year old child in toe, no money and no place to go added a little to the intensity. I chose to leave.

I turned from being a meek subservient ‘whatever you say dear’ kind of a little girl, to an empowered, ‘I have a choice here and I’m taking it’ kind of queen (well, I didn’t feel like a queen at the time, but hey…).  And over the years I have learned to find compassion for myself and my ex. I have notice how deep wounds CAN heal over time. It’s a gift that keeps giving (sometimes whether I want it or not).

It all worked out, yes, even better than I could have imagined. And yes, that experience made me stronger for having gone through it. No, I wouldn’t trade that learning back now. It is part of me. I know I will survive. I know I have a choice. I know now, what I didn’t know then, that there is life on the other side of these mini-life-deaths.

How is that true for you?  Do you have past experiences that tested you and you came out stronger because of it?  Could that be true of what is happening now?  How could that be true?  Can you imagine looking back down the road with tremendous gratitude?

Be courageous my friends. Honor your big and little life lessons.
They are the gems you can hold forever, a power to embody.

Ask yourself, ‘Hmmm, I wonder how might this (whatever is presently pulling at your leg) be a gift?’ “Hmm, I wonder…how this is actually a learning?’ ‘ What gifts has this given me already?’ Hmm, I wonder what gifts are possible?’

Can you appreciate any part of this mess?

Be open. Breathe. Wonder.

Yeah, I know, life aint easy sometime.
Maybe you didn’t come here to kick back and smoke a cigar all day.
Maybe there’s something else.

Give gratitude a go.
Gratitude for the good the bad and the ugly.
Dive in and find the wisdom.
See if it wiggles your world.

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